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So this year I remember to send my bio dad a gift. I am far from perfect on remembering to send cards and such. Yes I kinda suck on that and I know it. I didn't get out all the mother's day cards (I still have my mom's but she had other plans and we talked and ended up spending a special day together as we see each other at least one a month if not more.)
ANYWAY! I was so excited to have remembered to get my bio dad 9And my dad who raised me too) a gift this year that I didn't think anything of it as it was going to actual get there before the day so he could enjoy it with his step kids ' husbands who were all coming to his house for Father's day.
But what happened? His wife, my step-mother who I did not meet until I was 23, got mad. She was mad that he got a gift this year. Now to be fair she didn't get a card or gift from me this year as she was traveling so I didn't send one. And of course this means I hate her. I don't BTW. I don't always love her, but I I like her well enough. She didn't raise me and really we are friendly but again I do try to get her a mother's day gift or card. I just didn't this year. But she made my bio dad's day hell because clearly I am mad at her and I hate her because I got him a gift. WHAT?!?:!
Mind you- I get it- she likes gifts. It is probably the highest of her Love Languages -(if you know what that is then you know gift giving is on the list of ways people need to be shown they are loved.) But again this year it just didn't happen and again I didn't get my own MOM a gift. And so she yelled at my bio dad and said she was cancelling the dinner the next day and on and on... why do it matter? She has 3 other actual children whom she raised who have grandkids and live in her state two towns away! I just don't get it.. We are not super close. We text every once in a while. When I was last in New York, I opted out of spending time with them as she was sick. I managed not to get the Con Crud and was not willing to take chances on other sicknesses. It was not personal. Yes I see how it could be seen that way but I usually remember her for Mother's day and not my bio-Dad for Father's day which she them gives him a hard time about as well but this .. I just don't get it.
Just needed to vent.
My dad who raised me love his cheese box as I got him cheese he had never had before! It was cool. I usually don't know what to get Dad but this time I was spot on! That was nice this time. At least I got one right.
ANYWAY! I was so excited to have remembered to get my bio dad 9And my dad who raised me too) a gift this year that I didn't think anything of it as it was going to actual get there before the day so he could enjoy it with his step kids ' husbands who were all coming to his house for Father's day.
But what happened? His wife, my step-mother who I did not meet until I was 23, got mad. She was mad that he got a gift this year. Now to be fair she didn't get a card or gift from me this year as she was traveling so I didn't send one. And of course this means I hate her. I don't BTW. I don't always love her, but I I like her well enough. She didn't raise me and really we are friendly but again I do try to get her a mother's day gift or card. I just didn't this year. But she made my bio dad's day hell because clearly I am mad at her and I hate her because I got him a gift. WHAT?!?:!
Mind you- I get it- she likes gifts. It is probably the highest of her Love Languages -(if you know what that is then you know gift giving is on the list of ways people need to be shown they are loved.) But again this year it just didn't happen and again I didn't get my own MOM a gift. And so she yelled at my bio dad and said she was cancelling the dinner the next day and on and on... why do it matter? She has 3 other actual children whom she raised who have grandkids and live in her state two towns away! I just don't get it.. We are not super close. We text every once in a while. When I was last in New York, I opted out of spending time with them as she was sick. I managed not to get the Con Crud and was not willing to take chances on other sicknesses. It was not personal. Yes I see how it could be seen that way but I usually remember her for Mother's day and not my bio-Dad for Father's day which she them gives him a hard time about as well but this .. I just don't get it.
Just needed to vent.
My dad who raised me love his cheese box as I got him cheese he had never had before! It was cool. I usually don't know what to get Dad but this time I was spot on! That was nice this time. At least I got one right.
