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The Science and Steps to Making Changes for yourself (And how to keep those pesky Resolutions this year!)
THE SCIENCE OF MAKING CHANGES
As a "change agent" by my tarot coaching work, I've always pondered how do we most effectively transform. One way is through the traditional NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION. This works by doing the following, which is based on my personal experience, recent studies of human behavior, and the tarot's archetypal map of life.
THE SCIENCE OF KEEPING "RESOLUTIONS"
We all have the best of intentions of changing something in our lives, but how often do we actually keep them? Only 19% of people stick to their New Year's vows for two years. But the simple act of making a resolution improves your chances by a factor of 10!
Golden Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Fool Child)
IT'S YOUR APOTHEOSIS
Recognize that your resolution is your destiny. Your nature is pulling you towards fulfilling your potential (apotheosis) by keeping your resolve. Surrender to this "future pull" and let the flow take you along. It's easier than we have been taught. Let go and don't get in the way by working hard and thinking it's only you that is at work here. There's a much bigger life force at work. Your resolution is your spiritual path and practice.
First rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Magician)
ANNOUNCE YOUR RESOLUTION TO OTHERS.
Speak of your Resolution to people and perhaps even put it online. If you don't do this, the chance of you not following through is great. Not announcing your intentions shows your lack of confidence and reluctance. Speaking out has power, it's a principle of Magic!
Second Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Priestess)
ANALYZE WHY OLD BEHAVIOR HAS SERVED YOU.
Once you understand how your old habits worked for you, it's far easier to see new alternatives and healthy substitutes. This is a magical process that's revealing, healing and revolutionary!
Third Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Empress)
THERE WILL BE PAIN
The laborious part of birthing is pain. It hurts to change and create. Ushering in the new and getting rid of the old is painful. We hold on to the habitual, and the more holding, the more pain. Be brave, accept the discomfort and even the agony. But it's impermanent, the pain will pass and ecstasy will come! Keep your eye and heart focused on the outcome, the most sacred thing – new life!
Fourth rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Emperor)
ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Take baby steps. Break your resolution down into incremental steps. Make your action and steps "doable" so that you can keep doing the do! This way you create a new "habit." Make your change a habitual part of your life.
Fifth Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Hierophant)
BE PREPARED FOR SETBACKS.
Nobody is perfect, we all screw up here and there. So? Get back to your new habitual routine. Don't let setbacks take your down and feeling like you can't do it. Restart. It's a fact of life.
Sixth rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Lovers)
GET ALLIES.
Enlist like-minded friends. As a member of "resolutions anonymous," we all need a buddy. It's hard to do it alone. Everyone needs support and some kind of support community. If you resolve to walk, join a walking group or having a walking partner.
Seventh Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Chariot)
STAY MOTIVATED!
The best and most natural way to maintain your original inspiration is "The Magician's Ritual" – a meditation in which you imagine and see yourself being successful, feel that success in your heart and body, affirm to yourself that you can and are succeeding, visualize your next immediate step, and ask the universe for help. Keep doing this.
EIGHTH Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Balance)
CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT. It's difficult to quit smoking if your live or are surrounded by smokers. Alter your environment to support your new behavior. Get out of of your own personal "Dodge." Release and let go of who and what's not working for you. Get free to find your community, your place of power.
NINTH Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Hermit)
SUCCESS IS INSIDE OUT
"Success Is An Inside Job." It's all about YOU! Nothing changes unless you change. If you don't take command of your life, you are powerless – unauthentic, unwhole, and become a victim, a despondent, pitiful me, aborted person.
Tenth Rule for Keeping Your Resolution (Fortune)
REWARD YOUR COMPLETIONS
Every action and step done is a completion. Acknowledge your small fulfillment. Reward yourself. Say nice things to yourself. Do whatever it takes to be happy with what you got done. "The journey is the destination," so enjoy the journey, one step at a time, one day at a time.
THE SCIENCE OF MAKING CHANGES
As a "change agent" by my tarot coaching work, I've always pondered how do we most effectively transform. One way is through the traditional NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION. This works by doing the following, which is based on my personal experience, recent studies of human behavior, and the tarot's archetypal map of life.
THE SCIENCE OF KEEPING "RESOLUTIONS"
We all have the best of intentions of changing something in our lives, but how often do we actually keep them? Only 19% of people stick to their New Year's vows for two years. But the simple act of making a resolution improves your chances by a factor of 10!
Golden Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Fool Child)
IT'S YOUR APOTHEOSIS
Recognize that your resolution is your destiny. Your nature is pulling you towards fulfilling your potential (apotheosis) by keeping your resolve. Surrender to this "future pull" and let the flow take you along. It's easier than we have been taught. Let go and don't get in the way by working hard and thinking it's only you that is at work here. There's a much bigger life force at work. Your resolution is your spiritual path and practice.
First rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Magician)
ANNOUNCE YOUR RESOLUTION TO OTHERS.
Speak of your Resolution to people and perhaps even put it online. If you don't do this, the chance of you not following through is great. Not announcing your intentions shows your lack of confidence and reluctance. Speaking out has power, it's a principle of Magic!
Second Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Priestess)
ANALYZE WHY OLD BEHAVIOR HAS SERVED YOU.
Once you understand how your old habits worked for you, it's far easier to see new alternatives and healthy substitutes. This is a magical process that's revealing, healing and revolutionary!
Third Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Empress)
THERE WILL BE PAIN
The laborious part of birthing is pain. It hurts to change and create. Ushering in the new and getting rid of the old is painful. We hold on to the habitual, and the more holding, the more pain. Be brave, accept the discomfort and even the agony. But it's impermanent, the pain will pass and ecstasy will come! Keep your eye and heart focused on the outcome, the most sacred thing – new life!
Fourth rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Emperor)
ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Take baby steps. Break your resolution down into incremental steps. Make your action and steps "doable" so that you can keep doing the do! This way you create a new "habit." Make your change a habitual part of your life.
Fifth Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Hierophant)
BE PREPARED FOR SETBACKS.
Nobody is perfect, we all screw up here and there. So? Get back to your new habitual routine. Don't let setbacks take your down and feeling like you can't do it. Restart. It's a fact of life.
Sixth rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Lovers)
GET ALLIES.
Enlist like-minded friends. As a member of "resolutions anonymous," we all need a buddy. It's hard to do it alone. Everyone needs support and some kind of support community. If you resolve to walk, join a walking group or having a walking partner.
Seventh Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Chariot)
STAY MOTIVATED!
The best and most natural way to maintain your original inspiration is "The Magician's Ritual" – a meditation in which you imagine and see yourself being successful, feel that success in your heart and body, affirm to yourself that you can and are succeeding, visualize your next immediate step, and ask the universe for help. Keep doing this.
EIGHTH Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Balance)
CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT. It's difficult to quit smoking if your live or are surrounded by smokers. Alter your environment to support your new behavior. Get out of of your own personal "Dodge." Release and let go of who and what's not working for you. Get free to find your community, your place of power.
NINTH Rule for Keeping Your Resolution: (Hermit)
SUCCESS IS INSIDE OUT
"Success Is An Inside Job." It's all about YOU! Nothing changes unless you change. If you don't take command of your life, you are powerless – unauthentic, unwhole, and become a victim, a despondent, pitiful me, aborted person.
Tenth Rule for Keeping Your Resolution (Fortune)
REWARD YOUR COMPLETIONS
Every action and step done is a completion. Acknowledge your small fulfillment. Reward yourself. Say nice things to yourself. Do whatever it takes to be happy with what you got done. "The journey is the destination," so enjoy the journey, one step at a time, one day at a time.
