Thank You Lady.

[rosered32]

"And then in the midst of blinding white-out, you realize that part of the first one is making sure that the people you depend on are, well, dependable. If you continue to stumble and hope they'll catch you, and they continue to drop you and keep walking, it is as much your fault as theirs. If your friends leave you in the desert, at some point you must take responsibility for the fact that you ought to have either planned for it, or chosen better friends.

Just because you were someone's friend for a long time, does not guarantee that they will be your friend forever. I've never had to deal with this outside the context of major life changes: moves, marriages, religious conversion, death. Growing up means accepting that sometimes people are not who you expected, and that sometimes they just change. Admitting that you were wrong is as much a part of it as allowing that they are not the person you once knew. You shift course in the dust and the wind, you anchor your eyes on a non-moving object - the mountains in the distance or the angle of your shadow - and you walk on.


I read this tonight and it hit home. Somedays you win and other days you lose, but you grow and that is what is important. Thanks to one who found this out in the desert.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I find it amusing that you are quoting the post she put up after she took every single person in Sta Maria of her friends list. It can still resonate with you of course, but don't think for a second she considers you a friend. She obviously considers you one of the people that watched her fall and kept walking.

To Whom Ever...

[rosered32.livejournal.com]

I have no doubt that I am one of these people she is referring to. So what... It hit a cord for me.

I have done this, made bad choices about friends. Me re-posting has very little to do with the poster actually. She can hate me and blame me for her fall if she chooses. I care not about the specific in her life in regards to the Sta Maria stuff. I am not that important. If she wants to blame me, then well that is her choice. I was just feeling the emotions of her post and how I have felt that and know I have been in this position.

If She wished to say "It is your fault that this happened to me." well again her choice. But I was referencing the whole "Just because you were someone's friend for a long time, does not guarantee that they will be your friend forever." bit more than any thing. I have been here. I have felt this. It was well worded, IMO. If she hates me... oh well. Her choice.

I can appreciate others writings even if the venom is aimed at me. If something is well written and strikes a cord, well it does. If I was supposed to feel bad, well I didn't.

Re: To Whom Ever...

[rosered32.livejournal.com]

I do have IP login, but I don't know how to use it. And I don't care...

I know you would tell me if you felt I needed to know. But if you don't you don't. I won't die. You know where to find me.

Hope you are well.

[kailara.livejournal.com]

I can see why this would strike a chord with most people I know -- I just hope it's not resonating for you because you feel you've been left to wander by someone. *hugs*

Hope the unpacking is going as swiftly for you as it usually does for me. (Granted, then there's the cleaning and the organizing after the unpacking, but still...)

*HUGS BACK*

[rosered32.livejournal.com]

It was well written for a feeling I have had. I am not sure about what you are referring to so send me something offline so I can catch up....

And the unpacking hasn't really started yet as we still have to finish at the old place. I will be trying to get that done/started the next two weeks at night. Hurry up and write that book so we can have a chapter on "Unpacking... no you can really throw that stuff out!"

Re: *HUGS BACK*

[kailara.livejournal.com]

I wasn't really referencing anything specific -- just hoping that you hadn't had someone recently leave you hanging that made that particularly resonant for you. I hadn't heard about anything but then, I don't know every detail of everyone's lives, so just wanted to be sure you're alright. =)

And I think "No really, you CAN throw that out" would actually come in the "before you move" chapters as well...it'll go right before the chapter where I suggest calling your local trash service and find out if they do special pick-up days. (BTW, in Livermore...they do have pick-up service...you get 4 per year. Just call to schedule -- so when you're done throwing all that stuff out, you can call and arrange a pick-up for all the junk on your curb, instead of dealing with a dump run. They may charge for somethings though -- I think it was $26/large piece of furniture and $32/computer monitor, but there's local e-waste days that are free.)