Strange but true

[rosered32]

So I am sitting here at the babysitting job I do for this family I have known for a long time. The husband owns his own software company and the wife is a stay at home mom. Most days I come here and she is showing me stuff she is going to buy or what she might decorate the house with or that the kids are doing a new activity. I guess it just seems weird to me as I am only 2 months younger than her and yet I feel older and younger all at the same time. I mean I have been married and divorced, I have a career, and I have seen the world. She stays at home raising two kids and shops. I am sure she does more, but it seems like there should be more and yet she just showed me how she cleaned out all her cabinets and all the drawer space she has. I think "that's great I guess, but what else do you do?" I know I wasn't raised to be a housewife and being a stay a t home mom is cool, but I wonder if there isn't some thing more she might like to do, but isn't because she chooses not to. I just don't get it. I am not trying to put her down, but I just don't understand. Can some one explain this to me? I mean I want to get married and such, but I also want a job and to do something with my life as well as have kids. Is it really that hard? Can some one tell me? I just don't know. I feel weird as I am here once a week about and she is always showing me her new this or that and they sometimes go to the movies, but usually they go to dinner and shopping. I don't get it. If it were me I would just want some alone time with my husband, but not shopping. I could do that any time. Just a ramble about rich women who seem to have so much potential and chose to just raise kids and not do more now that the kids are older than 7. Please don't be offended I just want to understand. I wasn't raised to just be a family woman. I was raised to to that as well as a career. Can some one explain it to me? Thanks

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hmm its not a lack of ambition I think but the fullfillment of contentment

[thesmallwonder.livejournal.com]

My mom was a stay at home mom, and even though her kids are grown and out of the house she still stays at home, cooks cleans, does house projects, and various other things. I mean my mom wanted to be an arcitech when she was younger before she had kids. But she found her true passion as a stay at home mom. For some people that is thier life. Its what makes them happy,for them the idea of a career isn't nearly as appealing as being with thier children and raising them , to taking care of the house. I know its hard to understand, I mean I'm totally for teh go career and travel path, but with my mom being a stay at home mom, I can understand. Mostlye because she's always so happy when we do well in our lives, my sister and I, she's so proud everytime we suceed, because she raised us, she helped us become what we are. I hope maybe this helps.

Re: hmm its not a lack of ambition I think but the fullfillment of contentment

[rosered32.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

Re: hmm its not a lack of ambition I think but the fullfillment of contentment

[saffirebleu.livejournal.com]

Well said.

[dark-kitten8.livejournal.com]

i know what you mean actually... I could never do that myself i would get to bored... some people may be content enough with life to stay home but i wouldn't i have to many things i want to do... my mother is a stay at home mom but not one of those nice homemaker kinds... she kinda use to be when i was little but after that she would just sat at home and did nothing really.. sometimes i wonder what she does all day i mean she has no friends really, doesn't cook or clean or anything like that sometimes she gardens but mostly she just sits at the computer and calls me lazy.... mabye those type of people are just different we had them in our senior class years back our teachers asked us to write about what we wanted to do in life and a handful said be stay at home mothers.... i would rather be like my aunt she lives in a big beautiful house has 5 kids and has been runing her own bussiness for a while now...but mabye i am just different most little girls played house or with dolls i hated dolls, pink and played store...so it all boils down to what makes you happy if that is what makes her truly happy than she would never look for something else to fill her life... you find what makes you happy if you want a life aside from being a family women than go for it... the only one you can truly stop you is your self... hope my bored at work babble helped you a bit
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[rosered32.livejournal.com]

Thanks. And I hope you had fun at Fair this last weekend. I really enjoyed hanging out with you and it was fun to be a t an Itailan Faire for once. see you at Pittsburg. *hugs*